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Bachelor Party Vegas (2006)
IMDB rating: 4.00
Plot: Five friends’ road trip to Las Vegas for a bachelor party.
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Directors: Bernt Eric
Actors: Penn Kal,Bennett Jonathan,Faison Donald,Pastore Vincent,Stern Daniel,Beckel Graham,Adventure,Comedy,
Should I call off the engagement?
Me and my fiancee have been dating for over 4 years now and about 2 months ago we got engaged on my 28th birthday. Naturally he decided to go to Vegas for his Bachelor’s party which I agreed to but when he came home he admitted that he cheated on me. Now this is weeks before the wedding is scheduled to begin and although I still love him I’ve been rethinking my decision. He has been begging me to not call off the wedding and the fact that he came clean does mean that he regrets it however I find it extremely hard to overlook this. Should I or should I not call off the wedding?
Your relationship has shifted. You have lost the trust in him. The long and short of it is that he cheated. If he is given a ‘free pass’, he will cheat again. You will always be wondering if he is having sex with someone else, the instant he is away from you. Whether you marry him or not is your call. My sense is you will still marry him and spend the next few years agonizing over if he is cheating on you. Not a very good way to begin a marriage….
Jordan M | Jan 11, 2010
You should go to a couples counselor to work through the issue together. You may need to postpone the wedding, but it’s much better to do that than to get divorced if it came to that…
Amy | Jan 11, 2010
Luckily, he told you before you got married. It’s probably best that you take some time for yourself and think it through. Make a list of all of the bad he’s done, and then list off of the good. If the good outweighs the bad by a wide margin, consider staying. If the lists are about even, cut him loose. Just remember- you are both going to have to live with knowing that he did this to you, so be true to yourself- if you don’t ever see yourself being able to forgive him entirely, then your marriage probably won’t work in the long run. Don’t think convenience, think long term. Good luck! <3
Jenn C | Jan 11, 2010
Well, just a thought….would he look past it if you had told him the same thing?
I would say this is his personality when he is away from you. Trust, respect? Can you potentially live without these things?
I am not saying you should cancel the wedding, but he needs a big wake up call starting with a posponing of the big day. This may help him see the consequences of his actions as he will not know if you will choose to marry ay all, or are simply ‘postponing’.
The ONLY reason I would even give him the chance of ‘postponing’, is because he came forth on his own with it….but it dosnt mean he wont do it again in times of weakness.
I can tell you this for sure, in time, men tend to ‘hate’ the woman he can disrespect.
Tess | Jan 11, 2010
sorry to hear that.
must be hard.
he did come clean,
but hopefully he doesnt think that makes it better.
if u think that when u go thru with the wedding u will regret it,
then dont do it.
u dont want to be thinkin about it for the rest of ur life.
& u might think that the nxt time he goes out with friends,
u might not be able to trust him & u dont wanna spend all ur time thinking about wat hes up to.
ultimately its ur decision & dont listen to his begging, when he says he doesnt want u to call it off.
hopefully when he says he doesnt want u to call it off hes not only thinking of himself,
or the embarassment HE will feel if u do.
dont let him make u feel sorry for HIM.
im not going to tell u that u should or shouldnt call it off,
but it is the rest of UR life,
so make a wise decision.
u may or may not be happy wth the outcome,
but whatever u decide i hope its right for u.
Sarah | Jan 11, 2010
Once a cheater always a cheater. Keep this in mind when you weigh your decisions. It’s your choice, no one elses. Not on here, your friends or what your mom/sisters say. Father too. But keep in mind, if he did it once, he might MIGHT do it again…might. And will you be ok with always wondering if he’s off at a work thing..will he get drunk and sleep with someone or kiss someone?! Or even THINK of doing someone else? You’ll always have that at the back of your mind…do you want to do that for the rest of your life? Can you trust this guy after he did this and broke your trust?
waterLILY | Jan 11, 2010
If he cheated at one of the Las Vegas whore houses, then you really have nothing to worry about. He was probably hounded by his buddies to do it anyway, and probably wouldn’t have done it on his own w/o pressure from the guys. These girls are professionals in that they service at least 10 to 20 guys a day. They have nooooooooo feelings for these guys at all, they are just "johns" to these pros.
It meant nothing to her or to him, and he was probably so drunk that he didn’t even know what happened that night. Almost all guys who go to Vegas go to these whore houses, it’s why they have bachelor parties, and conventions there—it’s not to see the shows.
If he picked up a girl in a bar, that might be a different story, because she was a regular girl, and he might do it again. I wouldn’t be so forgiving of that scenario. Don’t throw away 4 yrs. and a lifetime if you really love this guy and if he has always been trustworthy in the past. I’m pretty sure the guys pressured him that he was a wuss and whipped if he didn’t have this one last hurrah before he got saddled with the old ball and chain (their words, not mine or his).
Lizzie | Jan 11, 2010
I wouldn’t call it off but I would definitely move the wedding date to a later time so you guys can regain trust and strengthen your relationship. This effected your relationship I can see but, you can make this work again if you honestly believe he regrets it and will never do it again. The first step is regaining trust. The second is forgiving and forgetting. Give it a few months at least. He has shown you he is untrustworthy and unfaithful. He needs to reclaim those titles again. Also make sure you want to do this. Be sure before you jump into something you may regret later. Be sure you love him and he loves you and that it’s unconditional and without reservation. Good luck! I am sorry he did that to you. You didn’t deserve it! Hope this helps you make up your mind.
BabyGurlsofthePattinson | Jan 11, 2010
Definitely postpone the wedding and take a break for at least a month to see how you feel when he’s not around. Spend time with your friends and family and talk to them. See what they think.
If you find out that he’s cheating while you are re-thinking the whole thing, I would personally keep away. What he’s done to you is really low and disrespectful. The guy is about to commit to love you and make you happy for the rest of your lives, and I don’t think this was a good way to begin.
However, you should be glad he told you but honesty is no excuse!
Remember, you create your destiny.
All the best
BlueMurder203 | Jan 11, 2010
Unless you can stand there before God, all your friends and family, and say "I do" with a completely clear mind, knowing 100% that you can trust him and live with him forever … don’t do it.
This applies to any big glaring doubts that you have, but especially for him to do this now.
You have to examine your entire relationship with him, and look for things. Has he always used poor judgment in the past, or do you think this was a ‘peer pressure’ thing? Was it with some chick in a bar, with a stripper, or did he go and pay for it? Did he use protection? Do you believe him if he says he did? Would he go get tested if you asked him? Do you think he’s hiding anything else? Can you trust him if he says ‘no, baby, this is the only thing - I swear’?
Trust … it’s a funny thing. Takes years to build, but only 15 minutes to destroy.
I feel for you, hon … and I don’t know if I could go marry a guy who could get naked with someone that’s not me in the weeks before we are getting married - under ANY circumstances. Vegas, drunk, party, old girlfriend, one night stand, hooker on the corner, stripper … doesn’t matter. Any guy who can do that … I just don’t know.
*big hug* and best of luck to you
Myth_Understood | Jan 12, 2010
I think you really should think about it long and hard, maybe seek some counseling. If you go through with the wedding without clearly thinking it out, it will always be at the back of the mind and he has lost trust, which is hard if not impossible to regain.
This is the first time he told you about, that doesn’t actually mean it was the first time he cheated on you. Would he be so willing to still marry you, if you came home and told him that you cheated on him?
Good luck with your decision. He may be the right guy, he may not be.
Kelly | Jan 12, 2010
Trust is vital in a marriage and if you think you have lost it, it takes alot to gain back. I would postpone the wedding because you do not want to rush the biggest decision of your life. You may find out in a few months that you cannot get over him cheating, or you may find that you can forgive and forget. He may even decide that he cheated because he does not want to be married. Either way, him cheating is a sign that he is not ready to be married right now and you both need to sort through your relationship issues. It does not matter if his friends hounded him to, or if it was "Just a hooker and did not mean anything" he still chose to do it and that decision was his alone. Either way, have him get tested no matter what he did with her because things can pop up later in life if he doesnt, like a surprise STD.
kim | Jan 12, 2010
let’s put it this way. my wedding cost 5000, my divorce cost 8000 and a year of agony. cut it off now.
diamondcollector | Jan 12, 2010
Don’t try to change him. Don’t make ultimatums. Don’t pout. Don’t cry.
He needs to just be himself.
And now that you know this about him, is this what you want to sign up for?
Is this a deal breaker?
Personally, I think you should kick him to the curb or drop kick him through the uprights ( your choice ).
You can do better than him!
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4REEE | Jan 12, 2010
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